
Obituary – By Bob
I first met John back in 2014 when we both met at the gym. It was quite obvious from these early days John was not
John has led a largely contented life to date. He had a modest but happy upbringing in Camden and built a career in upholstery,honing his craft for over thirty years, treating and caring for all types of leather work. His work has taken him all over the world and has incorporated jobs on the QE2 and in the Houses of Parliament.
Although diagnosed with prostate cancer over ten years ago and in more recent years he has developed Type 2 diabetes, he has been happy with his lot in life and feels lucky to have been to different places and seen many things. He is now facing the reality of his health conditions, learning to manage them and is gradually taking steps in the right direction in order to improve his health and well-being.
I grew up in a biggish rented house in Camden. I lived there with my mother, father and older sister. We shared the house with the woman who brought my mother up.
We didn’t really have grandparents but used to call her Gran. Her husband was profoundly deaf-his hearing had been damaged through years of working as a blacksmith- so it was difficult to communicate with him. My mother’s mother died of Spanish flu when my mother was very young. Her father remarried and his new wife already had children of her own. She kept her children with her and kicked my grandfather’s children out. I occasionally saw my grandfather but my Mum’s eldest brother (she had three) acted as a father figure to her and gave her away at her wedding.
My early memories of family life are pleasant. My Mum was a cleaner and my Dad a lorry driver. I used to go out in the lorry with my Dad in the summertime, delivering leather to Oxford. My Dad worked hard but also liked to go out and enjoy a drink and a bet. I suppose I was closer to her because she was around more. Our existence was comfortable, we didn’t have everything and might’ve had holes in our clothes from time to time but we always had enough to eat, always got something at Christmas and I can remember having great roaring fires in the winter, no central heating heating in those days of course. We always had animals at home. I remember growing up amidst a succession of cats and dogs. Our first dog was an Old English Sheepdog called Bella, my Mum used to recall how Bella allowed me to use her as a climbing frame when I was learning to stand and walk. Later my Dad brought home a Boxer puppy from work . We also had several cats over the years, all living well into their twenties.
I enjoyed my time at the first two schools I attended. One of them was a Church school and I was pleased to be allowed to take part in boxing there. I had a liking for cricket too. Unfortunately my final school wasn’t good. There were no facilities for, or interest in sports there.They amalgamated two schools when I was in my last year. There was a lack of equipment and a lack of teachers-sometimes no teacher. This might sound OK but it became boring after a while. Our class would act up a bit because there was no teacher and then we’d find ourselves with nothing to do. I didn’t pass my Eleven Plus. I had been happy at school but was ready to leave. I was fair at English and good at Metalwork and Woodwork but History bored me. My Dad was good at maths, he was a betting man so used to be able to work out the odds and returns. I wasn’t particularly good at Maths and found it boring.
I had friends outside of school and a group of us would often go cycling together. My Dad’s hobby was fishing and he used to take us fishing as a family in the countryside. I enjoyed this, except when it rained! We were part of a fishing club and they used to run fishing competitions and during the Closed Season we all used to get on the bus and go to the seaside together. I don’t really remember having family holidays apart from once we went to Ilfracombe after my Dad had a big gambling win.
I left school around Christmas time when I was fifteen and went to work at a leatherwork factory. My Dad knew the manager and foreman and he helped to secure me a position there. It was a bit foreboding the first time I walked in there and saw all the men at work but they were a good bunch and they looked after me. The works manager was a Regimental Sergeant Major, I found him to be a very fair man. I spent my first year of employment working in the factory then gradually started to go out on site with some of the older, more experienced lads. I learned my craft, repairing upholstery and treating leather by hand, by working alongside an older, experienced man. Most of the leather came from Scandinavia. It was of superior quality and made the best hides due to the way the animals were kept- no barbed wire fencing, good treatment from the farmers – and also because, due to the cold climate, there were no wobble flies there so these skins made the best unblemished hides. The firm I worked for had depots in Euston, Wimbledon and Canterbury, all well known and affluent areas. We worked in several aspects of leatherwork; car upholstery renovation, ships – I went to America to do a refit on the QE II, we had the Royal Warrant and worked in the Houses of Parliament. I spent one year working in the factory, then three or four years out on site with more senior staff before being sent out on my own. The company put me through my driving test and HGV test. It was a good job, I’d hate to have been stuck somewhere that made me dread going to work. I spent thirty four years there until the company went bust, mainly down to the rise in cheap imports.
Outside of work I had an active social life. The main thing we did in those days was go to the cinema, often twice a week. There was also a social side to my ‘stay away’ work travels. I travelled to places such as America, Germany, Holland, France and Italy. I enjoyed the travelling but didn’t learn any foreign languages. I think we English are lazy in this respect and everywhere I went most people spoke English so I never needed to bother.
I suppose I didn’t realize at the time that I was actually becoming a craftsperson. I had always been more practical than artistic. I did have a good eye for mixing colour, I found it easy to look into a colour and see what was needed to achieve the right result. We had recipes for the older colours but the newer colours, the pastel shades and suchlike needed to be mixed.
I left home aged twenty three when the company, Connolly’s, closed their Euston factory and I was relocated to Wimbledon. Connolly’s lent me the money to buy a flat in Sutton, Surrey. I lived there for five years before selling the flat and making enough money to pay the company back and buy a small house in Sutton. I met Collette, a young lady who worked at the hospital next to one of the garages we used. She was a Medical Science Laboratory Officer,researching blood. She eventually moved up to work in research at the Blood Transfusion Service. Collette worked a lot of hours, often evenings and weekends and I was busy with my job so we never married. I am happy to live on my own and comfortable with my own company. We visited places together, went out for nice meals. Our lifestyles suited us.
The real turning point in my life was when Connolly’s factories closed. I had thought that I’d be there until I retired.It was quite an upheaval. I had seen it coming, there had been a gradual decline over eleven years or so. I eventually made the decision to go freelance. It was easy money,I made a comfortable living. The work wasn’t difficult and I don’t think that I was particularly clever, but I was a rarity. Not many people were doing this kind of work so demand was high. I offered my services to Westminster Palace. I also worked for Morgan car dealers and for various firms that hired out furniture to be used for TV and films.
When I was fifty I moved to Cornwall. I was fed up of London by then. I was still working as a freelancer and travelled up to London to do some work in Parliament. I had an arrangement with some friends; they would stay with me when they came to Cornwall on holiday and I would stay with them when I was working in London.
My Dad had a stroke and died at sixty eight. He had also developed Type 2 diabetes towards the end of his life. My Mum died from stomach cancer aged eighty seven. When she was diagnosed, the doctors estimated that she had six months to live. She died two years later.
I’ve never really worried about my health. I suppose I do have a tendency to overeat and I do like a drink but they are life’s little pleasures aren’t they? I smoked a bit when I was younger, probably for around six years. Tobacco was very popular then and advertised everywhere but as soon as the evidence came out about the ill effects, I stopped smoking.
I was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer ten years ago. The first sign was a hernia. I had the hernia removed and then was unable to pass water for thirty hours after the operation! I told them in the hospital that I couldn’t pee but still they let me out. My brother in law took me to the doctor, I was catheterised and filled up two containers straight away! I have had two operations to remove some of the cancer. I often wonder why they don’t just take the prostate away completely but I know there is the risk of nerve damage and impaired functions. I can still pee properly and now have a self catheter which I use twice a week to make sure that my bladder is emptied properly. It sounds awful but it is easy to do, I’ve been doing it for ten years. A doctor does my PSA check four times a year. My first PSA was 92, it has been as low as 1.2 and it is now 11. I know that the test is not foolproof. I’ve been on hormone treatment for ten years. I haven’t had radiotherapy. I have never actually seen an oncologist! I’m still here though! I don’t worry about it. It lives with me, I don’t live with it.
I’ve had Type 2 diabetes for about seven years. I went to the doctor for one of my regular blood tests and as I was getting back into my car, he came running after me to tell me the news that I was now diabetic. I’m on metformin for the diabetes.
I would like to lose some weight but it is an uphill struggle, especially with the hormone treatment. I did actually lose six stone once, doing a three day diet. I was still working then and the physical aspect of the job must’ve helped me to keep the weight off. I felt great when I lost the weight, I had more energy, I could accelerate going uphill ! I have thought about asking my doctor about losing weight. I have arthritis in my knees so losing weight would make life easier on them.
I have no regrets. I think that I’ve been lucky in life with the things that I’ve seen, the places I’ve been to and the experiences I’ve had.
I have no regrets. I think that I’ve been lucky in life with the things that I’ve seen, the places I’ve been to and the experiences I’ve had. Most of this has happened through work so I’ve even been paid for it! Work takes up such a lot of life and I am fortunate to have done something that I enjoyed. I think that you don’t need a lot to be happy, just enough to get by. The grass isn’t always greener…
Of course I’d rather not have my health problems but there are a lot of people worse off. I worry for the youngsters, I think my generation have had the best of things.
As with many men with prostate troubles, waterworks are often an ongoing issue. So, when John visited his Urologist for waterworks advice and help, he wasn’t expecting the tests that they carried out would pick up escalating PSA levels, followed by the need for a further, comprehensive raft of tests and scans – and then his first ever visit to an Oncologist, plus all the associated fears that cancer had returned to get him this time in earnest.
“I’d got the policies out again”, says John to explain his darkly humorous fall-back position.
Although John says he’s had cancer for ten years and has had hormone treatment ever since – this was the first time that he had ever been seen by any Oncologist.
“They never suggested it and I never asked”, explains John who like so many people don’t like to question the medical profession.
Anyway, John’s recent visit to the Oncologist and the results from all his tests proved positive.
“I guess, when I was diagnosed ten years ago, it was live for today and bring on the fry-ups and perhaps some lager, but now after my brush with the NHS and the favourable results, it has spurred me on to improve my health”.

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