How it all began….
For a long time now I’ve come to believe that whoever you are – no matter what age, sex, colour, race, religion (and the rest who make up this pc/equal-opportunities-crazed world that we inhabit) – and wherever you find yourself in life in this uncertain world, trying to make the most of life in every possible way – health, well-being, happiness – and the rest, would seem an obvious and uncomplicated path. And yet, somehow, it just isn’t. And although we may feel unable to do anything much about the bigger picture, we can look closer to home, to see how we can improve things – just with small steps, within our own lives and the lives of those who are part of our personal journeys. Well, that would be my message to the planet anyway.
But, philosophy aside, when Bob (my husband) was faced with prostate cancer – and because we knew we couldn’t go on forever, we made the decision to close the gates of our social enterprise ‘Bridle Ways’ (you can read about this and still visit the Bridle Ways Website) we also made the decision that as we didn’t believe in retirement, we would hold onto the amazing experience and wisdom gained from ‘Bridle Ways’ and use it as the foundation stone for another charitable enterprise and so ‘take 9 lives, at least…’ came into being and has so far been a couple of years in the making.
Bridle ways – a bit of history
For the last 15 or so years Myni and Bob Tilley have been running a social enterprise called Bridle ways (you can still visit the site here). In a nutshell, Bridle ways was about bringing horses and people together for mutual rehabilitation; horses helping people helping horses. And during the Bridle ways years the Tilleys had 80 horses and 40 people in and then out of their gates – but in and then out of their gates to a better place.
If Myni had her way she would have continued taking in horses forever (and she still absolutely believes in horses as just one of an infinite number of devices for facilitating people and actualising them on to a better place), but after bob’s confrontation with prostate cancer – and the fact that Myni had reached 70 years – with Bob not far behind (Bob insists he is Myni’s toy boy!) – the line had to be drawn somewhere and the horse part of ‘Bridle ways’ was brought to a close a couple of years or so ago. But, and it is a BIG BUT although Myni and Bob may have drawn a line under horses they have been gathering up all the wisdom and experience gained from ‘Bridle ways’ for the continuing benefit of the people who are already joining them in their new venture ‘take 9 lives at least …’ to help themselves, and then, in turn, to help others – a chain reaction.
Let me explain – the missing link…
Apart from not wanting to lose and waste all the wisdom and experience gained during our ‘Bridle ways’ years, the missing link to the way forwards was amply supplied by an uncomfortable table-turning wake-up call in my own life as I was sailing carelessly past my sixties. And if you read my story (see Myni’s story), you’ll see that I was forced to put my own house (health-wise) into order – a novel and life-changing experience; I think it’s called personal responsibility. But, it also woke me up to the thought that if there’s hope for someone at my time of life to make changes, then there’s pretty much hope for anyone else.
So – let me explain further…
As I started to take my own life on a firm-ish rein I invited others at different stages of life who were interested and willing to carry out a life audit and consider taking responsibility for their lives so far and share the outcome. So alongside myself and Bob – who while fighting his own health issues has had to live with the new-ish me and the affect it has had on him, seven others have now joined us to share their insights and on-going changes – or not, for the benefit of others.